Emotional Wellness

Emotional Wellness includes the ability to experience, manage, and express appropriately our emotional life. It means we are aware of our feelings as they pass through us fluidly and dynamically, whatever they are, and have a capacity for work, play and love. Emotional wellness involves a recognition and acceptance of our physical and emotional selves, including our strengths and limitations.

Emotional Wellness is:

  • important to our physical, intellectual, spiritual and social lives
  • self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-confidence
  • having the ability to share our feelings with others
  • recognizing our problems and finding solutions
  • having the ability to share our feelings with others, recognizing our problems, and finding solutions happens when we get enough sleep, fuel our bodies well, exercise, take care of physical illness, abstain from alcohol and drugs, and have fun!

Exactly what is Emotional Intelligence? The term encompasses the following five characteristics and abilities:

  1. Self-awareness--knowing your emotions, recognizing feelings as they occur, and discriminating between them
  2. Mood management--handling feelings so they're relevant to the current situation and you react appropriately
  3. Self-motivation--"gathering up" your feelings and directing yourself towards a goal, despite self-doubt, inertia, and impulsiveness
  4. Empathy--recognizing feelings in others and tuning into their verbal and nonverbal cues
  5. Managing relationships--handling interpersonal interaction, conflict resolution, and negotiations

Why Do We Need Emotional Intelligence?

Research in brain-based learning suggests that emotional health is fundamental to effective learning. According to a report from the National Center for Clinical Infant Programs, the most critical element for a student's success in school is an understanding of how to learn. (Emotional Intelligence, p. 193.) The key ingredients for this understanding are:

  • Confidence
  • Curiosity
  • Intentionality
  • Self-control
  • Relatedness
  • Capacity to communicate
  • Ability to cooperate

What is the difference between a Perfectionist and a Healthy Striver?

Perfectionist Healthy Striver
Sets standards beyond reach and reason Sets high standards, but just beyond reach
Is never satisfied by anything less than perfection Enjoys process as well as outcome
Becomes dysfunctionally depressed when experiences failure and disappointment Bounces back from failure and disappointment quickly and with energy
Is preoccupied with fear of failure and disapproval ? this can deplete energy levels Keeps normal anxiety and fear of failure and disapproval within bounds ? uses them to create energy
Sees mistakes as evidence of unworthiness Sees mistakes as opportunities for growth and learning
Becomes overly defensive when criticized Reacts positively to helpful criticism

Emotional Wellness Resources

  • McGrath Health and Wellness Center
    • Counseling Services Contact: 513 745-3022, ML 7611
    • Location:1714 Cleneay Ave. (next to the Cohen Center parking lot)
  • Psychological Services Center
    • Services: The psychological services center provides services and consultation to the students, faculty and staff of Xavier University as well as to members of the Greater Cincinnati community. The psychological services offered through the psychological services center emphasize an integrative approach to treatment and attempt to help individuals improve their quality of life. More specifically, the psychological services center staff members assist individuals in developing competencies and problem-solving capacities to effectively deal with their challenges and find meaning in their lives. The psychological services center maintains a highly professional approach to treating social, emotional, and behavioral concerns. Professional Services:
      • Individual therapy
      • Family and child therapy (limited services available)
      • Focused groups (e.g. stress management)
      • Group therapy
      • Couples therapy
      • Psychological evaluation
      • Consultation/evaluation for community businesses
    • Fees: There is no charge for Xavier University students.